My path began in a very difficult childhood, where the fact that I was a gifted child presented a challenge to a family that put all their efforts in educating a male child, but saw investing in a girl’s education a waste of resources.

That is where my quest to understand began. I wanted to know:

• Why do people do what they do?
• What are the reasons for aggressive behavior?
• Where does hate come from?
• Why do people reject each other?
• Do we attack each other because we're looking for love?

I had my family to teach me how to survive under conditions of non-recognition and scarcity, which served me well when I needed to endure a traditional marriage where the wife was not supposed to think or push forward creative ideas or social critique, and managed to get a college education on clinical psychology while having five children.

My path took me into the two social institutions that really allow you to know a society in a deeper level:

1. A mental health care ward, where I invested 11 years watching inmates and doctors at the same time, and still asking my questions.
2. The navy in a Latin American society, where I learned how power and resources are managed for the good of whoever grabs them.

This was my life induction into the world of conflict. Confrontation is always a mystery for all of us because it forces people to challenge the same people they love most. There is always the chance of hurting others or being hurt ourselves, but nevertheless, we need to confront.

What happens if you don't face the unsolved core of needs being frustrated and needing a conflict to be solved? Simply put, our personal development gets stuck; we don't develop our necessary resilience skills and the meaning of our lives is reached. Our life purpose is our goal in life, so dare to know and reach it even deciding to confront others you love.

Nora Femenia, CEO of Creative Conflict Resolutions, Inc.