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Get the Facts About Psychological Abuse

June 8, 2017 by Nora Femenia Leave a Comment

Yes, psychological abuse is another way of talking about emotional abuse. However, using the term “psychological” can help us break down the facts about how this type of abuse occurs.

How is it psychological?

Psychological abuse is a repeated interaction between two people, in which one person attacks the other’s self worth, social competence (as a mother, child, sibling or worker), and makes that person believe that they are unwanted, unloved, and deeply flawed. When the psychological attacks become routine, the relationship can be defined as abusive.

Psychological abuse is then exactly what it sounds like: an attack on your psyche. Although some people will write this type of abuse off as “still better than being hit,” it is important to see how psychological abusers aim to twist how you see yourself, to the point that they tell you who and what you are. This is a terrible theft of identity, which can make it incredibly hard for you to break from the image of you that the abuser has created.

When overcoming psychological abuse in your life, you must identify this image of yourself and destroy it: if you don’t, you will continue to go through life seeing yourself through your abuser’s eyes, assuming that you are inadequate and undeserving, which can deeply hurt your future relationships.

It is also important to remember that it is the long term psychological effects that can be most damaging in a physically/sexually abusive relationship. Although physical damage eventually heals, the psychological damage that comes with it can take years to overcome.

Something else to keep in mind is that psychological abuse affects many households. According to Facts Court Watch, out of 504 children, 29% had been emotionally abused by caregivers compared to the 9% who had been sexually abused and the 14% who had been physically abused. Facts Court Watch also points out that children who are exposed to marital abuse in the home are affected as if they had been directly psychologically abused.

“Crazy Making” & “Gaslighting”

“Crazy making” is how many people describe an abuser’s tendency to mix abusive behavior with “breadcrumbs” of love and affection, which keeps the victim hanging on for better times by ensuring that the abuser is capable of love (conditional, of course, on the victim being “good”). Another aspect of psychological abuse to keep in mind is “gaslighting.” Here’s a definition from Facts Court Watch:

Perpetrators of emotional/psychological abuse often consciously employ a strategy called, “gaslighting”  in which they present an alternate reality to their victims, police, therapists and judges.  Gaslighting involves denying what occurred, offering plausible but untrue accounts of what occurred, or suggesting the victim is imagining things, exaggerating or lying.   Gaslighting strategies leave victims doubting their own perceptions, memory or sanity and serve to confuse police, judges and therapists into inaction or worse, supporting the abuser, while leaving the victims feeling helpless and alone against the abuse (Forward, 2003; Engel, 2002, Stern, 2007).

It is important that you educate yourself in the possibility of manipulation by other person. This will prevent you becoming a victim of other person’s abusive intentions…

WISHING YOU WELL!

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Overcoming Emotional Abuse Course

May 25, 2017 by Nora Femenia Leave a Comment

This is a new course in overcoming emotional abuse, made specifically for women who are in emotionally abusive relationships, and don’t know where to turn for help. This course is the continuation (part 2) of our new book, called Healing from Emotional Abuse. If you have not read this book yet, we highly recommend that you read this book before taking the course, as it will introduce you to concepts that will be helpful to you.

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When you register, this book is included in the price of your registration

In this course, you will receive in-depth lessons on both the basics of emotional abuse and the harder aspects, such as leaving and protecting your mental health. Each lesson is a way for you to both learn more about the toxic abuse in your life, and respond to us with your concerns, doubts and struggles (each lesson has a private survey at the end for you to participate in).

We made this course because we believe that no matter how strong a woman is, she can be crushed by emotional abuse’s toxic barrage of:


The six lessons you will cover in this course are:

Lesson #1: Basic Ideas About Abuse
Lesson #2: Framing Abuse as Control
Lesson #3: The Price You Pay for Emotional Abuse
Lesson #4: Do You Fight or Leave?
Lesson #5: Recovering Your Best Self
Lesson #6: Fulfilling Your Life Mission


Additional course materials:

  • Online videos
  • Membership in our forum, where you can support and be supported by other women taking the course
  • Online webinars given by Coach Nora.
  • Private phone coaching with Dr. Nora
  • New materials provided each month to keep you growing and thinking!

Through this course, you can take a deep look at your life and your abuse situation, and make the important decisions you need to make regarding the future of your marriage, your emotional well-being, and how you want to stop the emotional abuse in your life.

Are you wondering how Healing Emotional Abuse + the Overcoming Emotional Abuse course will help you? It’s simple.

You may start here…

But you can end up here!


Make no mistake:
this course will change your relationship. If you’re willing to put this course into practice, you will have the tools you need to stop emotional abuse. You may decide to leave, or decide to stay, but you will no longer have the same attitude about your life. You will demand respect as a human being, deny humiliation and control attempts, and fulfill your need to be deeply appreciated and loved. You will be given the tools to seek out the life that you want, and happily pursue it! Here is the link to the Overcoming Emotional Abuse Course:

 

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